Anger manifests itself in many ways for many different reasons, but is also associated with greater side effects. What if the most painful season of your life didn’t have to dominate your life, but be a small perspective of it? Did you ever stop to think that whatever is making you angry is only temporal and subject to change? What if you could dominate your anger instead of your anger dominating your life?
A fool always loses his temper, but a wise man holds it back. – Proverbs 29:11
It is okay to get angry but it is not the best mechanism for dealing with stress; it only leads to evildoing (Psalm 37:8-9), and evildoers will be cut off, but those who wait for the Lord, they will inherit the land. It is okay to be angry but don’t let it lead to sin (Ephesians 4:26-32); Do not allow anger to lead you into avoidable fights that can get you into a lot of trouble or destroy relationships. Oftentimes, when we get angry with others or even ourselves we seek revenge – It is possible to overcome evil by doing good so don’t seek revenge (Romans 12:17-21); it will most likely bite you back anyway. Before things get hot and escalate take a timeout from the situation that’s making you angry. Problems usually aren’t solved when one or more people are angry or in rage.
Do not associate with a man given to anger; or go with a hot-tempered man, or you will learn his ways and find a snare for yourself. – Proverbs 22:24-25
Get your mind off of the situation you feel you cannot control. Go exercise to get an emotional release or just think of the consequences ahead of time. Remember, the answer is not to get angry, but to take some type of constructive action; read your bible and pray. Ask God to change you and help you with your anger problem (Colossians 3:7-9). If we are truly children of God we must be led by the Spirit of God (Romans 8:14). Children of God should not have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but must be kind to everyone (Timothy 2:23-26). Is your anger portraying the fruits of the Spirit to your friends, family, colleagues, co-workers, or brothers and sisters in Christ (Galatians 5:22-23)?
“This you know, my beloved brethren but everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.” – James 1:19-20